Meeting and Making Friends on Campus
What can you do when you find yourself in school without enough friends? Making friends on campus is not the easiest thing to do especially when you are new on campus or you go to an urban commuter campus. Meeting people at school need not be a daunting task, there are several methods that are not difficult to master and you may find easy when you try them out.
Start by looking around at people you tend to see frequently, such as, people who you see in your classes, dorms and dining areas. Often an easy way to start a conversation is to focus on an area of obvious common interest. For example, before or after classes, ask, "did you get the assignment for next week", or " what did you think of the professor's theory of..." This gets you past the most difficult part, which is starting the first conversation. Be sure to introduce yourself before the end of the conversation.
If your campus has a dining facility, cafe or coffee cart, then there will be more opportunities for meeting people. After you've introduced yourself and talked about class, it's the perfect time to ask the other person to join you for a cup of coffee. Once you are at the table it should be easier to talk about where you're from, what is your major, what you think of the class, is it easy or hard. Once you start a conversation, you've gotten past the most difficult part. It will be much easier to suggest meeting again for coffee, or to meet socially off campus.
Put yourself where there are other people that you will see over and over. Join a club, interest group or sports team. For some people this mean joining a Fraternity or Sorority, which is a good way to meet people. But don't think it is the only way to meet people, and don't rule out meeting people in other ways. Get a job writing for the school newspaper. Check the school paper and Web site for social events. Concerts and cultural events are good ways to meet people with common interest in a relaxed setting. Obviously if you live in a dormitory you will have chances to interact with people in your dorm floor as well as the dorm cafeteria. Make it a point of inviting people to meet you for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Don't be a cockroach (someone who hangs out in a dark room and scurries when the lights are turned on).
Study lounges are great place to meet people as well because there is only so much time people will study before they take a break. People have to take study breaks and if you are in the lounge with them, there's a good chance that you'll be able to strike up a conversation. Consider study lounges in dorms, on campus and in research libraries.
Working on Campus is a good way to meet people, as well as put some money in your pocket, solving two problems at once. It depends on the job. If you have a job where you interact with people, and have some time to talk with them, then you are going to meet a lot more people who you will see repeatedly. Beware, if your job involves wearing a goofy uniform, it may not help you to meet people, and may even hinder meeting people.
Social events can be good ways to meet people. School dances, campus mixers and happy hours may seem un-hip and they are, but don't dismiss them outright. Other people may have the same feelings about it, so if you approach someone and say, "These things are really lame, aren't they?" or say, "Don't you hate these things." These are good ways to start a conversation, because suddenly you'll something in common to rant about.
Activism frequently brings people of like minds together. If you believe strongly in something, and you join a cause you will meet other people who share you passions. That passion translates into sense of belonging and connection between people. There is nothing like a rally followed by some time in prison with your new buddies, to inspire a sense of camaraderie against a common foe. You may want to look at your college policy about these matters before you attempt radical actions that may get you thrown out of school.
Make a table your office. Sit in the same area several times a week, and you are bound to meet and get to know people who are also there frequently. As you become a fixture, people will begin to feel that they know you. While this will work at any eating area, it is especially good in a coffee house environment, if your school has one. There is something about coffee, tea and muffins that brings people together and stimulates conversation.
Forming Study Group. This has the added benefit of helping you to study in a more enjoyable way to study and get better grades. Spending long hours studying together creates a feeling of common cause and should lead to social meeting for coffee or drinks.
Waiters and Waitresses, If all else fails, talk to waiters and waitresses. They have to talk to you.
Be Polite and Outgoing
In general, if you spend time in places with other people the being polite will go a long way to breaking the ice. Saying hello to people, smiling and asking about them will make them more interested in knowing you. It's not so hard to meet people if you simply start the conversation.
Use Online Personal Ads and Chat Rooms
Use Online personals and chat rooms to meet people. Both are good ways to get to know people before meeting them. Using Online personals tends to be better than chat rooms because of the formality of setting up an ad leads to more honesty. Remember to take the time to ask the proper questions and get to know the person first. If you decide to meet someone, always meet first in a public space such as a cafe (not the one at which you always hang out). Personals can help you to screen out hundreds of losers and focus on someone who you are more likely to like.
Have fun with it.
Meeting people can be fun. Make the most out of your college days by having an active social life.
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